@SmerdFor one thing, you have a very limited view of things. It goes like this: either you have stadium view which allows you to see the whole field, or the more closed view that focuses on the individual player. The problem with the former is that you can see the whole view and possible passes and plays you could make, but you cannot focus on the individual player, which makes it difficult to dribbler. The latter allows you to focus on the individual player, but you can't see the possible passes which basically means you're passing blind.
The big thing is that computers are limited. Even EA programmers have admitted that it is difficult to code the many tactical variables found in football. Other video games based on sports like Gridiron football are easier to control since the game is fragmented, but association football is more dynamic. With 11 players a piece it can get confusing quick.
Things like off the ball movements are also essential to the game in defense as well as offense. You need a coordinated defense for covering attackers and/or play the offside trap if you're in an official game. On the other side, while playing offense you need it to move defenders out of position. It is difficult to control those aspects as well without training, or at least a player smart enough to do so without being told.
Then there is also the sheer intelligence of the player, that often plays more into account that pure athletic prowess. Things like looking at who's behind you in order to perform an oriented control or knowing how to use their body. EA and Konami only have a limited view of things, and make their stats based on a handful of games they might have seen of that particular player. They probably won't program a player to have a certain skill they have either not thought of, or they haven't see the player perform.
Recent games have allowed you to control other players that do not have the ball, but when you're playing live you can tell your teammates "go here" or "pressure" or what have you. There are just too many variables to try to control it all. Often times I just find it frustrating and makes me wish I were playing the real game instead.
I also like the fact that it's good exercise. But that's another story.
I don't play other sports games, nor am I particularly interested in other sports in real life (maybe martial arts) so I can't attest for other sports games. I'm sure other people that have a more vast knowledge of specific disciplines will pick nits like chimps going to prom.
